Welcome to life where the party begins! In this party call Life you invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.
As we grow, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
So whats different about these friends? Are you Real Friends? Lets try and explore:
1. They face problems together. – A person who truly knows and loves you – a real friend – is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else still believes the smile on your face.
2. They give what they can because they truly care. – It can only be a ‘give and take’ if BOTH SIDES are GIVING. That’s the key.
3. They make time for each other. – Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you, they will create one for you.
4. They offer each other freedom. – If this person is meant to be in your life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make them leave.
5. They communicate effectively. – They say that great communication is the cornerstone of a great relationship. If you have resentment, you must talk it out rather than let the resentment grow. If you are jealous, you must communicate in an open and honest manner to address your insecurities. If you have expectations of your partner, you must communicate them. If there are any problems whatsoever, you must communicate them and work them out. And communicate more than just problems – communicate the good things too.
6. They accept each other as is. – A real friend is someone who truly knows you, and loves you just the same. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
7. They are genuine, and expect genuineness. – Don’t over-analyze your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.
8. They compromise. – When there’s a disagreement, they work out a solution that works for both parties. They understand and Appreciate.
9. They support each other’s growth changes. – Be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.
10. They believe in each other. – Support their dreams and passions. Whether they actually accomplish these dreams or not, your belief is of infinite importance to them.
11. They maintain realistic expectations of their relationship. – No one is happy all the time. Friends must keep realistic expectations of each other.
12. They honor each other in small ways on a regular basis. – Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get. Every day you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by making small gestures to show your appreciation and affection.
13. They listen, and they hear every word. – Giving a person a voice, and showing them that their words matter, will have a long-lasting impact on them. Less advice is often the best advice.
14. They keep their promises. – Your word means everything. If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. Real friends keep promises and tell the truth upfront.
15. They stick around. – The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave.
Everyone needs friends, and you probably have always had at least one. A friend is defined as a person you know well and regard with affection, trust and respect. As you get older, some of your friendships will start to change, and some may grow deeper. You might also begin to know many more people, although not all of them will be your close friends. Chances are you will also start to spend more time with your friends, and maybe talk on the phone more. Changes in relationships are natural but not always easy. Here’s an amazing deck from a very dear friend Harpreet Singh!
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